Contrast of Authoritative Parenting and Permissive Parenting Styles

Positive discipline is essential to the child’s developmental process. One vital element in child discipline is parenting styles. Many parents have their own way to discipline their child or children. Children have many different types of personalities that may challenge different parenting styles which in one way or another affect the child developmental process. The various parenting styles commonly used in bringing up the children include authoritative, permissive, uninvolved and authoritarian styles. In this paper I'm going to talk about authoritative parenting contrast to permissive parenting styles.

Authoritative parenting

Authoritative parenting is a form of parenting which set high limits of responsibility on their child or children. In this technique of parenting, the parent may be strict to the child followed with negative consequences to make them follow their directions. However, the discipline are always corporal with an aim to correct the child accordingly, teaching them how to behave in the right manner. According to Darling and Steinberg (1993), authoritative rearing style stresses high expectations from the child, the parents on the other hand supports and provides basic needs to enable the child to succeed.

The authoritative parenting usually leaves the child with less social skills in their life since the parents often tell the child what to do and what not to. According to Steinberg (1992), authoritative parenting may enhance child excellence in classroom; however, it often inhibits self-development due to extensive supervision and direct parental control. Moreover, children brought up by authoritative parents have a habit of obedience, quiet, comfort and an aspect of not being very much happy. However, some kinds under authentic (over controlled) parenting style may develop depressions or low self-esteem from some of the demands accorded by their parents.

Authoritative style is usually identified as the most effective child-rearing style with parents bearing characteristics such as independence encouragement, fair and reasonable discipline, nurturance and warmth coverage limits and expectations. Williams, Ciarrochi and Heaven (2012) noted that authoritative parenting is also flexible, for instance, in extenuating situations, parents may allow their kids to come up with explanations of what happened and help them adjust to the circumstance accordingly.

Also, authoritative parents take part as role models for their kids since they portray similar behavior they expect from them. From the limits accorded, Children aged 2-15 years old usually develop valuable skills later in their life since they are taught how to do things on their own. Moreover, with the help of their parents, children learn to manage their emotions and understanding their parents and other people better.

Permissive parenting

Permissive parenting, also known as indulgent parenting, involves a responsible parent imposing little demands on their children. The parents are usually involved with the kid's activities providing them with all needs and wishes and placing low controls on them. According to Frei (2013), permissive parents create friendship atmosphere with their kids and tend not to relate their parental role. Additionally, parents always allow their children express their opinions in the family as well as coming up with their preferred decision in their daily situations.

Permissive parents comprise a tendency of loving their children in a great way by providing few rules and limitation to the kid. Moreover, parenting in this system is usually very lax with few punishments on the kids. According to Trice (2002), permissive parents provide their children with whatever they need hoping to be highly appreciated. Noteworthy to mention, most of the indulgent parents tend to compensate their children with what they missed while they were kids hence giving them more freedom and materials.

Trice (2002) noted that some children being brought up with permissive child-rearing could result in immaturity, lack of impulsive control or even irresponsible behaviors. Notably, children aged 2-15 years never learn ways to control their emotions as well as their reactions hence always tend to solve their problems in their ways. Additionally, Children of permissive parents may grow more impulsive behaviors in school and as they approach adolescence and may be involved extensive misconducts such as drug abuse. However, children in permissive parenting are always independent, emotionally secure and always willing to learn new things.

Modifications in a family to create positive family environment

To create a positive atmosphere in a family, there are always various rules to establish in the family to help the kid define acceptable and non-acceptable behaviors in the house. Noteworthy, the parents should come up with different consequences for breaking the various rules accorded. For the essence of friendship between the kid and parents, the parent should let the child learn his or her privileges in the house. Noteworthy, such privileges should be accorded when certain preset requirements are met. From the limitations and opportunities set, the parents should always honor their words and always provide appropriate advice to the kid.

In conclusion, parental child-rearing method always affects child behavior in future. As such, it is always important to apply the right parenting styles. Noteworthy to mention, adopting either authoritative or permissive poses several advantages and disadvantages to child rearing. In the attempt to accrue maximal benefits of different parenting styles, the parents should always modify relevant styles depending on the situations at hand.

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