Parenting Styles between my Parents

Parenting styles are collections of parental attitudes, practices, and non-verbal expressions that describe/show the nature of parent-child relationships. Because people learn how to parent from many different examples including their own parents, role models, (community of people/all good people in the world) and life experiences.

Parenting ways of doing things can change/differ greatly from household to household, however, experts believe that parenting styles can be broken down into categories which include easygoing and agreeable,authoritarian,authoritative,and neglectful. (Parenting For Brain) 28, Jan, 2018

When it came to raising me my mother and father had different perspectives on their end. My mom’s style of parenting was a mixture of authoritative and permissive when I was younger. My friends would always say how cool of a mom she is but when she needed to be authoritative she was able to switch up between the two. When I was younger, probably up until I was about 14 or 15, she became more relaxed. I was always a good child, I never had a rebellious stage because she let me do whatever so it was easy growing up around her. We’re like best friends now. I also believe because she had me at a young age, she’s much more relatable towards me, we’re almost the same person.

My dad became uninvolved when I was about 11 years old. He was always in and out of my life due to family drama that went on with my dad and the person he was dating around the time who didn’t like me for whatever reason (really no reason at all). She did some very questionable things a normal human being would not do and my dad was allowing it. But, after that entire situation, he had to keep moving around and find work. He’s a very simple person so working towards having a better future just isn’t who he is even to this day.

Back when I was younger when we did have our outings he was a permissive and laid back type of father but really when I think about everything my mom played both roles for me. She doesn’t settle for less and she keeps working hard until she gets up to where she needs to be. Which is where I get my perseverance from and I work hard for everything I do and I will not settle for less. So, my mom was definitely a great role model growing up.

I have tried moving back with my dad under certain circumstances a few times within the past 4 years and every time, it has never worked out. He tries to be a parent but he doesn’t know how to because he didn’t raise any of his children. He tries to go based off of how his grandmother raised him, which was many years ago. It isn’t the same and he doesn’t really know us so he thinks being a strict parent is the style that is going to work and it doesn’t. Which is where we clash against each other all the time.

If I do decide to have children, I plan to raise them similar to how my mom raised me.

Although, there are some things that I wouldn’t do that my mom has done. I already act like a mother to my youngest sister. I worry about certain things all the time. If my mom isn’t worried about something or I see that she isn’t doing something she should I step in and like play that role a bit. Sometimes I’m like a mother to my mom and it's funny because we’ll just back and forth with each other. I do want to have a relationship with my children like the one I have with my mom because I cherish it so much and I don’t know what I’d do without her.

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